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Luke Conard: A Lesson in Manipulation and Truth-Bending


I want to talk about Luke Conard’s “apology.” It can be read in full here, but I’m also going to quote the entire damn thing just in case his post gets edited at some point. (Other important references: Kristina’s post, and Whitney’s post.)

The reason I want to do this is because I think it’s a very valuable lesson in how the mind of a manipulator works.

Now, I’m generally not one to criticize apologies on the internet like this. I’ve had my own apologies ripped apart and deemed disingenuous when they were sincere. So I know that it sucks, and it’s frustrating, and I make an effort not to do that to others. I prefer to wait and see if future actions line up with the apparent realization of wrongdoings. I think the world is a very gray place and even people who mess up a lot and extremely can change if they really set their mind to it. So if they say they are, I like to hope that’s true. I think everyone who knows me or follows me is aware of that.

But this is one of the most bullshit “apologies” I have ever seen.

Let’s get to it, shall we?

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An Open Letter to the Bullshit

a must-read after @lukeconard ‘s “explanation” of things.


These are thoughts.

These are the thoughts of a fangirl, of a feminist, and of a member of this community,

These are the thoughts of a girl who was once in an extremely emotionally manipulative and coercive relationship.

But most importantly to the context of this situation, these are the thoughts of a fucking pissed off Probation Officer who works almost exclusively with a domestic violence caseload.

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On Luke's half-assed "apology"


I mean really, bro. Literally all we have been talking about for the last few days is how manipulative people in your position can be, and you throw THAT at us?

I would have appreciated “I was wrong. I’m sorry.” more than that sack of bull you call an apology. You weren’t even apologizing! “I’m…

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Luke Conards "apology" or whatever the fuck that was.

Basically his entire post was just like his music career. Full of auto-tune. ”

just the absolut best way to put it!!! perfect response! I really hope all the teenage girls stop falling for his shit.


Regardless of the emotional roller coaster that I have been on concerning one of the accused this week and having to question some of my friendships… I am suddenly feeling very talkative concerning Luke Conard’s apology.


While Whitney and Kristina might have been the…

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Reference: List of Fandom Abuse Posts


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For those who missed a lot of the recent revelations, here are the posts I’ve read, from the initial ones to some context. Feel free to share this, dip in and out, whatever.

I hope you’ll find this list useful, both to catch up on what’s going on and to inform…

heartbreaking and disgusting. A must read for everyone in the community to make us and especially the young girls safer and more aware.
While some of these things are not too surprising for some of us, seeing it all together in writing makes it just too real to be ignored.

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Where are the Female Wizard Rockers?


In the hours since allegations came to light about a prominent member of the Wizard Rock and Harry Potter community there have been posts of support, posts of anger and posts of disappointment. Hank Green posted this video about consent.

What has been noticeable is the lack of an explosive…

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Moffat also revealed that Martin changes the scripts quite regularly because he will often say ‘oh I’ll just do all that with a look’.

must love him!


Moffat also revealed that Martin changes the scripts quite regularly because he will often say ‘oh I’ll just do all that with a look’.


must love him!

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#himym #love #rofl

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How does this have 15,000 notes?

Anyway, context: I received this good advice from my chaplaincy supervisor when I worked as a student chaplain at a children’s hospital in 2000. We were talking not about any of the terrible things I’d witnessed at the hospital but about my breakup with my college girlfriend.

One time when I was a chaplain, this especially awful thing happened, and a bunch of us had to attend this post trauma debriefing/group therapy session. (The theory goes that this was a way to prevent or minimize PTSD, I think.) So here is this big group of people—doctors, nurses, social workers, paramedics, etc.—all being forced to attend this group therapy session they don’t particularly want to be at, and the counselor person is asking all of us to recount what happened that night, which no one is particularly inclined to do.

Eventually, I tell a story about my girlfriend: When I came home the morning after this thing had happened, I was really freaking out, and she was not particularly empathetic.   This story animates everyone: They all start talking about my girlfriend, and how she’s just like their boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse, and how I should really break up with her, because that’ll show her.

So I did break up with her.

Of course, I immediately regretted it, but once she was free of obligation to me she probably felt tremendous relief and had no intention of re-entangling. (This was very sane and mature of her, in retrospect.) So I spent my days moping around the hospital, not because of the horrible things I’d seen but because I missed this woman so much. And I felt like an idiot being so upset over this girl when there were far worse things happening around me at the hospital every day.

Which just made everything worse: I was sad because I was no longer close to this woman I loved. And then I was ashamed because I felt more upset about my own stupid romantic problems than about the illness and death that was all around me in the hospital. I felt like my problems were silly and small, but they still made me very sad, and I could never seem to get out of that spiral.

All of this combined to make me super annoying to be around. Fortunately, I was surrounded by chaplains, who are basically professionally empathetic, and are required by job description to listen to you.

It was my supervisor who finally helped me understand why I was so sad, and that I should feel sad. So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are). But that’s not what I actually needed. What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered. 

I have found this very useful to think about over the years, and I find that it is a lot easier and more bearable to be sad when you aren’t constantly berating yourself for being sad.

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Loki, that Son of a bitch! #theavengers

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